Healing Out Loud: A Mother’s Journey Through Trauma, Heartbreak, and Growth

Healing While Parenting: My Journey Through Trauma, Toxicity, and Transformation

I don't think the average person truly understands how difficult it is to heal from a toxic marriage—especially while simultaneously unpacking childhood trauma and toxic upbringing from caregivers.

Add to that the pain of detaching from people you love—because they disrupt your peace of mind—and doing all of this as a full-time parent with no family support, and it becomes a mountain few talk about climbing.

And yet… here I am.

I’m also navigating perimenopause, which brings its own physical and emotional challenges. Honestly, it’s been a monster I never felt equipped to spar with. But each day, I show up. For myself. For my children. For the woman I’m becoming.

Reparenting Myself While Raising My Children

One of the most painful yet powerful experiences has been reparenting myself—healing that inner child who didn’t receive what she needed—while also striving to raise emotionally healthy children. I'm showing them a better way, even as I unlearn decades of survival patterns.

It hasn’t been easy. In fact, it’s been one of the hardest journeys of my life.

But it has also been the most rewarding.

Finding Peace After Chaos

I now experience something I never thought possible: peace. Profound, beautiful, quiet peace.

It was unfamiliar at first. I had grown so used to living in chaos that peace felt unnatural—almost unsafe. But now I’m learning to embrace it. To sit in it. To protect it.

You’re Not Alone: I’m Here as a Resource

My hope in sharing this is simple: that you feel seen. That if you’re also healing from a toxic relationship, navigating emotional trauma, managing solo parenting, or dealing with perimenopause symptoms, you know you’re not alone.

I want to be the resource for you that I desperately needed—and thankfully found—during my own healing journey.

One day at a time. One breath at a time. We rise.